I remember when I started exploring spirituality many years ago. At that time, I’d been stuck in a space of self-sabotage, anger, control, rigidity and self-despise. Exploring spirituality had enabled me to move out from that negative space and to see that life could be so much more. It taught me great lessons in trust, surrender, abundance, true joy and empowerment – and I lapped up the new experience with great enthusiasm.
But whilst stepping into this new space was a freeing experience, it took many years before I truly understood how to apply those spiritual lessons in my life. Today, I am still learning. Striking a balance between walking in a spiritual world and applying great spiritual lessons in my daily life is a constant challenge that makes my life a stimulating experience. I enjoy making a discovery of yet another level or dimension to a concept that further enriches my life.
In my earlier days of learning to trust in the Universe, I threw away all controls as I allowed myself to enjoy the freedom of being ‘a passenger of cosmic intelligence’, so to speak. That was refreshing, after obsessively trying to control outcomes for years. “When you trust, you will be taken to where you need to be,” was a well-known mantra in spiritual circles. I still believe this (as is evident from my last posting about flowing with your intuition).
But trusting isn’t about being passive at all. For self-expression, the ability to make empowered choices out of our free will, is a spiritual lesson too. When we’re in tune with the energies of the Universe, the pathways before us are illuminated – though invisible to our naked eyes, we can sense those pathways. As we trust in what we sense, we make choices and decisions to follow this guidance. That choice to move along an illuminated pathway is still down to us.
This is the antithesis of remaining in a state of vagueness, ambiguity or ambivalence. Being vague/ambiguous/ambivalent gives us the illusion that we have more freedom but actually it can leave us stuck, unable to move forward. It’s fine if we had taken a year’s sabbatical to sit around to test out the truth of spiritual concepts, but in our practical world it’s just … well, not very practical. When you want a certain outcome, supported by a strong feeling that it is going to be good for you, it is up to you to take the necessary steps to see the manifestation of that outcome.
I’ve seen many people take the ambiguous stance regarding giving up an unhealthy habit. They justify it by saying, “I don’t want to commit to giving up completely because if I fail it would leave me totally discouraged.” This is poor excuse and in fact nonsense, held on only by the fears of giving up a familiar pattern. It does not stand up to logical examination since choosing not to commit to something we say we want is like allowing ourselves the space to fail. In other words, we set ourselves up to fail. Of course, committing to something does not guarantee that we will achieve it, but it maximises our chances of success. Commitment is akin to covering up the energetic holes around our intention so that all our resources are channelled towards ensuring a desired outcome.
So much has been written, discussed and sold around the hot topic of manifestation. People are desperate to acquire the secrets to manifesting their heart’s desires, and I can give you THE KEY to bringing in what you want to create in your life:
DECIDING that this is what is going to happen.
Whatever it is that you want to change in yourself and in your life, decide on the change. Decide that you will change. Decide this or that will happen. And you will make it happen, despite obstacles along the way. Unless you make this shift internally, unless you decide, you are setting yourself up for failure. Ambivalence leaves you weak. Make up your mind and move on in that direction whole-heartedly.
In your path towards what you want to achieve, you may draw in the right people to help you. But nobody can make that decision to achieve it. Only you can do it. It cannot be done for you. Without making this decision, your efforts will only be half-hearted, to match your half-hearted intention.
A simple yet powerful statement of “I have decided!” uttered with total conviction and determination will immediately pull together all your resources and bring them to the forefront of your consciousness, ready at your fingertips. You allow no leeway for a different outcome and so your every action will be infused with this intention. You may actually find a different outcome when you get there, but the process of moving determinedly towards what you desired as an outcome is such an empowering act of self-expression and self-actualisation that a differing outcome to what you desired would not feel like a failure when you get there but a delightful surprise.
What can you say “I have decided!” for today?