Archive for category: Healing and Transformation

Book Review: Tiny Buddha’s Guide To Loving Yourself

18 Sep
September 18, 2013

Tiny Buddha's Guide To Loving Yourself by Lori Deschene, Conari Press

I mentioned in my previous post that there is a lack of resources that can truly guide us to practice self-love.  Perhaps you too have been hoping that a practical and inspiring guide on the subject of self-love would be available.  If so, Lori Deschene’s new book Tiny Buddha’s Guide To Loving Yourself should come as good news.

This book is a gem.  The author, who is the founder of Tiny Buddha (one of the most popular personal development sites on the internet), has compiled 40 inspiring and touching personal stories shared by contributors to the Tiny Buddha blog.  I am one of the contributors (read my post Are You Running Away From Yourself?).

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The Enormous Power Of Forgiveness

10 Sep
September 10, 2013

Learn the enormous power of forgiveness with Amyra Mah
If you’re like me, you would probably roll your eyes when someone mentions the word “forgiveness”.  Like “self-love and “being present”, forgiveness is a word we see everywhere in the self-help world.  We know these concepts are important spiritual practices that will enrich our lives and lead to personal growth, but they’ve been offered so much that it’s become boring to hear it again and again.

The problem isn’t that forgiveness is boring, it is that it’s seldom elaborated beyond the superficial meaning of the word.  When we hear the word, we think we already know what it means.  But like “self-love”, we may not know how to actually practise it even if we think we know what it means.  Thus, we become frustrated with the whole concept of it, since we know we need to practise it but nobody has given us the instructions on how to actually do it.

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The Gift Of Rebirth

26 Aug
August 26, 2013

Appreciating the Gift of Rebirth with Amyra Mah

“Where is the fountain that throws out these flowers in such a ceaseless outbreak of ecstasy?” – Tagore

One afternoon about a month ago, I looked outside my house after the gardeners had finished cutting the grass and was shocked to see that they had chopped off plenty of healthy plants.  The tall plants in the middle of an open area, a number of short palm trees, the lush shrubs around the front of my house protecting my privacy… some of these plants I’d loved so much that I knew their individual leaves… they laid on the ground in piles waiting to be collected and disposed of.  I took in the massacre before my eyes.

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The Power Of Naming Your Fears

15 Jul
July 15, 2013

Learn the power of naming your fears with Amyra Mah
I was speaking with someone about the role of awareness in preventing the progression of negativity and found myself using the story of Rumpelstiltskin as an analogy.  Since then I’ve been reflecting on the lessons we can extract from this fable about dealing with fear.

Most of you will already know the Brothers Grimm’s story of Rumpelstiltskin.  It goes something like this:

A man boasts to the king that his daughter can spin straw into gold.  The king locks the girl up in a room full of straw and forces her to do just that.  Should she fail, she’d be killed.  A creature shows up and does the job for her, in exchange for her necklace.  The king puts her into a bigger room with more straw, promising he will marry her if she can do the same magic.  The creature appears again and offers to perform the task; the price this time is her firstborn child when she becomes queen.  The king marries the girl and they have a child.  The creature returns to claim its prize… unless she can guess its name within three days.  She sends a guard out to spy on the creature, who is found dancing around a fire, arrogantly singing its name.  When it appears the next day, the queen utters its name, “Rumpelstiltskin”.  Shocked to its core, the creature wobbles away and vanishes from the face of the earth.

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How To Let Go Of Being Wronged – Finally

14 Mar
March 14, 2013

Learning forgiveness and letting go of beingg wronged with Amyra Mah
People sometimes ask me, “What is the deepest, most important healing that must occur for me to break through my blocks?”  For the serious seeker, one of the most powerful places to go in your healing is where you still hold resentment towards those who did you wrong.

I’m not talking about recent events but the most highly-charged incident in your earliest memory about being wronged.  This is not a place that most people would deliberately choose to go unless it becomes utterly clear to them that certain patterns that bring unhappiness and that keep unfolding in their lives have something to do with the hurts they still carry from this event.

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The Day When Suffering Stopped

24 Dec
December 24, 2012

How to end suffering and discover joy with Amyra Mah
I was in a session with a client at my centre the other day when I witnessed the precise moment when suffering ended.  It was breathtaking.  In that moment, I saw the endless grasping –  the controlling, fixing, righting what’s not right, perfecting what’s imperfect, knowing what’s not known, searching for answers – STOP.

In my work as an addiction therapist, my job is to lead people to the edge of the door beyond which lies their heart waiting to awaken, and guide them to travel through that door and emerge the other side as their authentic self.

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Elephant Medicine: Healing My Relationship With The World

24 Mar
March 24, 2012

Interacting with an elephant healed my relationship with the world
Only three months into the year, and 2012 is already looking to be a widly adventurous and creative year for me.  I am driven by a great enthusiasm to create – inspired by a curiosity to move into unknown territories.  In the material sense, it has translated into me taking up projects that test the boundaries of conventional thoughts/methods – allowing me to explore insights, knowledge, wisdom that may yield more exciting ways for people to experience the world.  It also allows me on a personal level to challenge my own beliefs and expand my perception of life.  All of this coincides with a deepening of my spiritual connection that has significantly raised my awareness in the last couple of months.

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“Accept The Unacceptable”

12 Apr
April 12, 2010

Accept the Unacceptable - Amyra Mah, Unusual Wisdom
I was watching an animated movie about Doctor Strange, the Marvel Comics creation.  It was my first introduction to the character and I was fascinated by the world of sorcery portrayed in the story.  The movie depicts how Dr Stephen Strange, a successful surgeon, who after injuring his hands in an accident finds his way to a monastery in Tibet where he is trained by The Ancient One to be a powerful sorcerer.  Lots of spiritual lessons reflected in the movie, especially in the doctor’s early training when he has to move past the pain of his loss, guilt and shame to recover a sense of purpose in his life.

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Do Not Be Perplexed…. Be In Awe

02 Dec
December 2, 2009

I consider myself very privileged to be in a position to facilitate spiritual awakenings for clients who are open to develop their spirituality.  It’s such an honour to be part of someone’s awakening process and so humbling to witness the growth of a soul.  A lot of our clients are highly-accomplished professionals and successful businesspeople who are left-brain dominant; whilst their structured, analytical minds have aided in their professional success, it’s an obstacle when it comes to emotional healing.  Hence, we often spend quite a lot of time breaking through their tendencies to intellectualise the process so that they can deepen into the realm where true healings can take place.

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Strange Is Good

06 Jul
July 6, 2009

As a counsellor, I’m always fascinated by the choice of words that people use when describing the process of change that is taking place for them.  Fascinated, because any new variation I hear enriches my experience of working with people.  I’ve always been intensely interested in what motivates people and in learning about the complex human psyche.  One thing I’ve grown to appreciate is the availability of language in connecting one’s experience with one’s self-awareness.

In my work, I find that people don’t always have fluency in the emotional language.  Nowadays, largely due to the rise in popularity of self-help books, audio tapes, seminars and TV programmes, people are more exposed to emotion-speak.

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