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When You Feel You Have Nothing Left

04 May
May 4, 2017

when you have nothing left by Amyra Mah

Almost everyone has had moments in their lives when they feel as if they have run out of resources, solutions, answers.  This may be paired with symptoms of anxiety, depression, addictive behaviours or self-beating patterns.  The bottom line is, you feel stuck, trapped in a place where you don’t want to be, and you can’t see a way out.  In this state, it is easy to conclude that you have nothing left.

It is an illusion that you have exhausted everything you have.  It is simply a state you find yourself in, and it is just one perspective.  Depending on the angle of your perception, that can be true or that can be untrue.  With a slight shift in perspective, you can shift into a whole different reality where suddenly you can see and access so much more.

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Strange Is Good

06 Jul
July 6, 2009

As a counsellor, I’m always fascinated by the choice of words that people use when describing the process of change that is taking place for them.  Fascinated, because any new variation I hear enriches my experience of working with people.  I’ve always been intensely interested in what motivates people and in learning about the complex human psyche.  One thing I’ve grown to appreciate is the availability of language in connecting one’s experience with one’s self-awareness.

In my work, I find that people don’t always have fluency in the emotional language.  Nowadays, largely due to the rise in popularity of self-help books, audio tapes, seminars and TV programmes, people are more exposed to emotion-speak.

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Growing Through The Guidance Of Others

16 Apr
April 16, 2009

In the pursuit of spiritual growth, meeting and learning from the people we come across through our work and social life remains one of the most enriching experiences.  Who we surround ourselves with can make a big difference between staying stuck and realising our full potential.  The power of that lies in us: we can hang out with people who aren’t growing or we seek the company of those who inspire us to better ourselves.

Of course, we can also learn from those who are stuck.  By observing how they live we remind ourselves how we don’t want to live, which would give us more focus and clarity about how we do want to live.  Moreover, we can use the emotional responses we have towards them to understand ourselves better.

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Changing Your State Is A Matter of Choice

15 Jun
June 15, 2008

The other day I was co-facilitating a group and found myself feeling tired.  My tendency, when tired, is to float along with whatever I am doing, resigned to the fact that my energy is low and that there’s nothing to be done until it is over and I can get to a private place to recharge myself.  What that means is that my attention in the interim would be diffused.  This time, however, knowing that it was important for me to stay focused and alert, I took steps to change my state right there and then.  Within a few minutes, I felt clear and refreshed.

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