If given a choice, I could spend a lot of time focusing on my own growth. Since I rate spiritual growth as my top personal value, it’s easy for me to devote lots of time to psycho-analysing myself, processing my issues and healing my pains. Admittedly, it can get close to the level of self-indulgence if I don’t watch myself! From time to time, I’m jolted to awareness of how self-centered I have been, to be focusing on my own inadequacies when I could be looking at how to help more people. I then get redirected internally to make it less about me and more about others.
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I’ve been asked what my resolution is for 2010, so I will share it here. For the record, I have stopped making new year resolutions some years ago. I had found that the long list I tended to come up with too depressing after a while. Too much unnecessary pressure, as if life did not present enough on my plate already! I’ve since taken the route of flowing with whatever life presents, whatever time of the year it is. This year, if I were to come up with one resolution, it would be to keep every area of my life as simple as possible.
One of the reasons why we fail to create lasting changes in our lives is we tend to focus on what is not-yet ‘perfect’ and using that as an excuse to sabotage our progress. We tend to begin a process of change expecting to wake up one day with all our internal conflicts gone overnight. It’s called a “process” because it is an ongoing journey of healing parts of ourselves. But most of us expect our issues to disappear within a short time, and when we see that we’re still struggling, we consider ourselves to have failed. So we go back to our old habits or old structure – full on – because “it’s all or nothing”.