Tag Archive for: Relationships

Is Compassion For Others Overrated?

22 Apr
April 22, 2017

is compassion overrated by Amyra Mah

In spiritual circles, it is common for people to state that we should “come from compassion”.  Whilst compassion is a high vibrational state, actually few really know how to practise it.  The way that many people purport to practise it actually takes them a few notches down in the spiritual evolutionary ladder.

If we’re talking about true compassion, yes, coming from compassion is the way to go.  But most people misuse it, to the detriment of their own wellbeing.

There comes a point in our spiritual growth when whenever we see someone behaving badly, our first inclination may be to say, “Oh, but we must have compassion.”  As a result, we may tolerate bad behaviours when others treat us badly or are abusive towards us.

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Arresting The Cycle: How You Can Take Your Power Back And Avert Crisis

21 Nov
November 21, 2014

How to take your power back and avert a crisis - Unusual Wisdom

Nobody likes crises.  Yet most who have survived one would be able to tell you that they gained something valuable from the experience and how it’s made them better persons.  I believe that crises often happen to help steer us back on the path that is aligned with our soul:

Sometimes, it happens after we’ve failed to see and follow repeated signals that our soul had been giving us; when anything short of a crisis would not get our attention.

Other times, it happens because the crisis is deemed to be the best way for us to learn specific lessons.

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Addiction For Human Drama: Are You Addicted to Stress, Anxiety and Dramas?

24 Aug
August 24, 2011

Are You Addicted to Dramas? - Unusual Wisdom

A common scenario when I’m working with a client – whether they are dealing with addictions, eating disorder, weight issues or relationship problems – is listening to how their life has gotten out-of-control and the resulting stress and anxiety they battle with.  They want to get rid of these uncomfortable symptoms, and I understand that.  But sometimes, I notice that the client does not actually want to give up their dramas.  “I just want to have a peaceful life,” they say with a  heavy sigh.  Yet I may sense in them an attachment to living a highly-strung, chaotic life.

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Superwoman Under Stress: How to Overcome Over-Responsibility and Guilt

18 Aug
August 18, 2011

Superwoman Under Stress: How to Overcome Over-Responsibility and Guilt
I’ve encountered, through my work, many professionally successful women who struggle with immensely stressful lives.  It seems that they are pulled in so many directions that they’re breaking under the strain of their responsibilities.  They feel trapped in a life of unhappiness where every day is just about making it through the day with what little’s left of their energy reserve.  Having a successful career seems to come at a price, and this is especially true if you’re a woman.

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Lying In The Bed You Made

24 Apr
April 24, 2011

The other day, someone was telling me about an undesirable situation he was in and I asked him why he was choosing to remain in it.  He said he has made his bed and now he has to lie in it.  This brings to mind something that I often come across when looking at the complexities about being in a state of suffering: how we can trap ourselves in suffering by doing nothing to reconcile the conflicts that give rise to the suffering.

We might try to change things superficially within the situation, hoping it will bring improvement, but that may not be enough or effective.  And if what you’re doing to try to change or improve things brings no real and lasting results, you may end up feeling frustrated with yourself and make your suffering even more immediate to you.

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Why We Stay In Abusive Situations

30 Sep
September 30, 2010

Picturesque View of Wildlife in Kenya
When working with clients, I see a common theme that crops up all the time, no matter what life issues they are struggling with at the time.  It is the feeling of being trapped, unable to find a way out of a situation.  Whether it is in a relationship, a job situation, or their home life, there is a huge emotional need to create change but also a daunting prospect of what taking steps towards change could entail.  These problems manifest as stresses, confusions, frustrations, worries and conflicts.  The word ‘stuck’ is very apt in these situations, as they struggle internally with wanting things to be different and yet are crippled by thoughts of negative consequences of change.

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Simplicity Is The Way To Go

25 Jan
January 25, 2010

View Walking Down from Glastonbury Tor
I’ve been asked what my resolution is for 2010, so I will share it here.  For the record, I have stopped making new year resolutions some years ago.  I had found that the long list I tended to come up with too depressing after a while.  Too much unnecessary pressure, as if life did not present enough on my plate already!  I’ve since taken the route of flowing with whatever life presents, whatever time of the year it is.  This year, if I were to come up with one resolution, it would be to keep every area of my life as simple as possible.

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Adjusting To Light

01 Sep
September 1, 2008

I have just come to an end of a relationship and it’s been a test of my own connectivity to come out of it healed.  I’m reminded of how stresses can trigger old, destructive tendencies and in times of great stress it’s imperative that we watch ourselves vigilantly so that we don’t slide back to a well-trodden but useless path.

Time seems to slow down when we’re in deep emotional pain.  Not in a pleasant way, but in a way that seems to just drag on and prolong our pain.  I’m reminding myself that this is a good thing – there are simply too many easily-available ways for us to numb our pain, and the temptation to bury pain is the evil which all addictive persons must fight.  Pain can only be healed if pain was present in our awareness.

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Relaxing The Ego To Make Empowered Choices

22 Aug
August 22, 2008

In my previous posting, I stated that change is an ongoing process.  The acceptance that life is meant to be a voyage of discovering more authentic parts of ourselves, rather than a pursuit of a state of perfection we expect to achieve overnight, will make us much happier.  As long as we remain present in life, we would be able to take on the signs that are shown to us to keep us moving forward in our growth.  The quickest way to accelerate our growth is to observe how we respond from our ego and then make more empowered choices from a higher perspective.

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