Tag Archive for: Self-Honesty

Is Compassion For Others Overrated?

22 Apr
April 22, 2017

is compassion overrated by Amyra Mah

In spiritual circles, it is common for people to state that we should “come from compassion”.  Whilst compassion is a high vibrational state, actually few really know how to practise it.  The way that many people purport to practise it actually takes them a few notches down in the spiritual evolutionary ladder.

If we’re talking about true compassion, yes, coming from compassion is the way to go.  But most people misuse it, to the detriment of their own wellbeing.

There comes a point in our spiritual growth when whenever we see someone behaving badly, our first inclination may be to say, “Oh, but we must have compassion.”  As a result, we may tolerate bad behaviours when others treat us badly or are abusive towards us.

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Are You Ready For The Next Level Of Healing?

21 Oct
October 21, 2015

Next Level of Healing

I recently read a critical review about my book Embrace The Unlovable, by Elizabelth Galen, Ph.D.  As a visionary writer who frequently pushes the envelope to invite new approaches and perspectives to healing and personal growth, I expect to receive criticisms from traditional sectors of these fields as part and parcel of sharing my views with the world.

This particular critical piece, however, presented some important examples of the very limitations of what is available in mainstream treatment that I highlighted in my book. Therefore, I decided it would be an excellent source for me to use as a tool to reinforce some of my key messages – so that we can go beyond the limits of what we’re told is possible in healing from shame and other deep emotional wounds.

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The Power Of Naming Your Fears

15 Jul
July 15, 2013

Learn the power of naming your fears with Amyra Mah
I was speaking with someone about the role of awareness in preventing the progression of negativity and found myself using the story of Rumpelstiltskin as an analogy.  Since then I’ve been reflecting on the lessons we can extract from this fable about dealing with fear.

Most of you will already know the Brothers Grimm’s story of Rumpelstiltskin.  It goes something like this:

A man boasts to the king that his daughter can spin straw into gold.  The king locks the girl up in a room full of straw and forces her to do just that.  Should she fail, she’d be killed.  A creature shows up and does the job for her, in exchange for her necklace.  The king puts her into a bigger room with more straw, promising he will marry her if she can do the same magic.  The creature appears again and offers to perform the task; the price this time is her firstborn child when she becomes queen.  The king marries the girl and they have a child.  The creature returns to claim its prize… unless she can guess its name within three days.  She sends a guard out to spy on the creature, who is found dancing around a fire, arrogantly singing its name.  When it appears the next day, the queen utters its name, “Rumpelstiltskin”.  Shocked to its core, the creature wobbles away and vanishes from the face of the earth.

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Why We Stay In Abusive Situations

30 Sep
September 30, 2010

Picturesque View of Wildlife in Kenya
When working with clients, I see a common theme that crops up all the time, no matter what life issues they are struggling with at the time.  It is the feeling of being trapped, unable to find a way out of a situation.  Whether it is in a relationship, a job situation, or their home life, there is a huge emotional need to create change but also a daunting prospect of what taking steps towards change could entail.  These problems manifest as stresses, confusions, frustrations, worries and conflicts.  The word ‘stuck’ is very apt in these situations, as they struggle internally with wanting things to be different and yet are crippled by thoughts of negative consequences of change.

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Finding The Gift In An Illness

02 Apr
April 2, 2008

Yesterday, I met up with a friend whom I hadn’t seen for almost three years.  She seemed so different from when I last saw her – her energy is expansive and bright, and she has an aura of peace about her.  The transformation from the last time I’d seen her was stark.  Her depression, the heavy sadness and pain which hung about her three years ago is gone, replaced by a certain presence and relaxed self-assuredness.

She’s a model of someone who took responsibility to change for the better when confronted by what seemed like bad news.  A year ago, she was diagnosed with cancer.  Refusing invasive treatments, she opted to heal herself through addressing her emotional issues.  She attributed her change to the cancer.  “It’s a blessing,” she said, without a hint of self-pity.

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