Tag Archive for: Self-Identity

20 Ways To Renew Yourself

30 Dec
December 30, 2013

There is nothing more exciting than living a life of constant self-renewal.  Self-renewal is the attention you give towards ensuring that your life is forward-moving, with every step bringing you closer to who you really are.  It entails stripping away the old and stale, so that you become increasingly aware of the purity of your true essence.

Every time you renew yourself, you relate to your world with a renewed sense of aliveness, seeing beauty and colours through fresh eyes.  As you experience this newness, your life-force is activated.  Life, inside and outside of you, becomes rich and inspiring. ...keep reading

When Failure Is Success

30 Sep
September 30, 2013

Overcoming Fear of Taking the Risk of Failing with Amyra Mah
I was talking to a friend about the show she gave as a performance artist and telling her how much I admired her bravery in giving such a raw performance.  She said that stepping onto the stage was huge for her growth; as a perfectionist, she wanted everything to go perfectly.  “I failed… many times,” she said.  “But of course, that was my success.”  I felt shivers.

That last statement was a big inspiration to me.  Suddenly, I saw how often so many of us stop ourselves from doing the thing we love to do, just because we refuse to take the risk of failing.  We hold on so strongly to ‘succeeding’ in a certain way, as the only way, so much so that we end up depriving ourselves of seeing our dream manifested. ...keep reading

How To Be Free And Spontaneous – Without Hurting Yourself

07 Sep
September 7, 2011

Being free and spontaneous with Amyra Mah
One of our greatest desires is to be free and spontaneous.  If you look at most personal and social problems, you will see that somewhere along the way we were striving to be free from our physical, emotional and mental constraints.  To be able to express ourselves freely and spontaneously, to be freed from our fearful beliefs and the emotional pains that grip us – these desires are what sprouted the whole self-help and human potential movement.

But the desire to be free and spontaneous can become a trap.  In our efforts to get unstuck, we can lead ourselves to a place of even greater stuckness.  This does not mean, however, that we shouldn’t strive to be free, for I believe that freeing ourselves from feeling trapped is our spiritual purpose.  The journey of unshackling ourselves is both exciting and rewarding, to be savoured throughout our lives, as every bit more freedom we gain moves us closer to becoming our ultimate self. ...keep reading

Superwoman Under Stress: How to Overcome Over-Responsibility and Guilt

18 Aug
August 18, 2011

Superwoman Under Stress: How to Overcome Over-Responsibility and Guilt
I’ve encountered, through my work, many professionally successful women who struggle with immensely stressful lives.  It seems that they are pulled in so many directions that they’re breaking under the strain of their responsibilities.  They feel trapped in a life of unhappiness where every day is just about making it through the day with what little’s left of their energy reserve.  Having a successful career seems to come at a price, and this is especially true if you’re a woman. ...keep reading

The Transformational Effects Of Remorse

28 Dec
December 28, 2008

In my work as an addiction counsellor, I often encounter issues of shame behind substance abuse.  The influence of shame on self-destructive habits looks something like this:

A person grew up with a belief that he is unworthy, damaged or a bad person.  He struggles with the pain and fear generated by this underlying belief and attempts to invalidate the belief through his actions and behaviours.  At the same time, because he has not reconciled his fear of this belief, he tends to perpetuate acts that substantiate the belief. ...keep reading