If you’re like me, you would probably roll your eyes when someone mentions the word “forgiveness”. Like “self-love and “being present”, forgiveness is a word we see everywhere in the self-help world. We know these concepts are important spiritual practices that will enrich our lives and lead to personal growth, but they’ve been offered so much that it’s become boring to hear it again and again.
The problem isn’t that forgiveness is boring, it is that it’s seldom elaborated beyond the superficial meaning of the word. When we hear the word, we think we already know what it means. But like “self-love”, we may not know how to actually practise it even if we think we know what it means. Thus, we become frustrated with the whole concept of it, since we know we need to practise it but nobody has given us the instructions on how to actually do it.