• Sometimes, Feeling Bad Can Be Good: How to Grow from Regret

    A few months ago, I mourned the passing of a friend.  With deep sadness, I realised that I could have spent more time with her when she was still physically alive.  But the truth is, I didn’t.  I was gripped by a deep sense of regret, about what I could have done differently and how much more I could have stretched myself.

    In processing the plethora of emotions that were triggered by the event, I learned a few things that have since solidified who I am internally.

    I found that when I expressed my grief, sadness and regrets to those … Keep reading

  • Are You Addicted To Worry, Not-Having and Other Negative States?

    In my work as an addiction therapist, I have helped hundreds of people in overcoming all kinds of addictions.  Usually, when people think of addictions, they think of addiction to drugs, alcohol, sex, pornography, gambling or internet gaming.  But these more commonly known addictions are just the tip of the iceberg, for beneath these conspicuous behaviours lie another kind of addiction: addiction to non-physical things.

    By this, I’m referring to certain emotions or states of being.  The things that can’t be seen on the outside but take place in a person’s inner world.

    This should not be hard to imagine.  … Keep reading

  • When Everything Seems to Go Wrong… It is Powerful!

    Are you in one of those periods where everything just seems to fall apart?  Where the whole world seems to be against you?  Where anything that can go wrong, is going wrong in one way or another?

    I have good news for you:  Contrary to how it may seem and how it’s making you feel, you are in an immensely powerful place.  If you know how powerful this is, you can take advantage of the gifts it contains.  But if you see it as unfortunate and a series of bad luck – that you’re in a bad phase of your … Keep reading