• Sometimes, Feeling Bad Can Be Good: How to Grow from Regret

    A few months ago, I mourned the passing of a friend.  With deep sadness, I realised that I could have spent more time with her when she was still physically alive.  But the truth is, I didn’t.  I was gripped by a deep sense of regret, about what I could have done differently and how much more I could have stretched myself.

    In processing the plethora of emotions that were triggered by the event, I learned a few things that have since solidified who I am internally.

    I found that when I expressed my grief, sadness and regrets to those … Keep reading

  • The Enormous Power Of Forgiveness

    If you’re like me, you would probably roll your eyes when someone mentions the word “forgiveness”.  Like “self-love and “being present”, forgiveness is a word we see everywhere in the self-help world.  We know these concepts are important spiritual practices that will enrich our lives and lead to personal growth, but they’ve been offered so much that it’s become boring to hear it again and again.

    The problem isn’t that forgiveness is boring, it is that it’s seldom elaborated beyond the superficial meaning of the word.  When we hear the word, we think we already know what it means.  But … Keep reading

  • Changing Your State Is A Matter of Choice

    The other day I was co-facilitating a group and found myself feeling tired.  My tendency, when tired, is to float along with whatever I am doing, resigned to the fact that my energy is low and that there’s nothing to be done until it is over and I can get to a private place to recharge myself.  What that means is that my attention in the interim would be diffused.  This time, however, knowing that it was important for me to stay focused and alert, I took steps to change my state right there and then.  Within a few minutes, … Keep reading