• Adjusting To Light

    I have just come to an end of a relationship and it’s been a test of my own connectivity to come out of it healed.  I’m reminded of how stresses can trigger old, destructive tendencies and in times of great stress it’s imperative that we watch ourselves vigilantly so that we don’t slide back to a well-trodden but useless path.

    Time seems to slow down when we’re in deep emotional pain.  Not in a pleasant way, but in a way that seems to just drag on and prolong our pain.  I’m reminding myself that this is a good thing – … Keep reading

  • The Roadmap To Inner Peace

    I am currently revising the Body Renew manual.  In the Introduction, I’d started by saying, “Most people seek to come to a place of inner peace, no matter what forms their struggles present themselves in their lives.”  I wrote that three years ago, and today I still find that to be true.

    Since the time I first wrote the manual, I have battled more life challenges and grown, seeing and learning more about life in the process.  Yet I still maintain that most people, if you boil down their desires, are seeking to find peace within themselves.

    Inner peace can … Keep reading

  • Relaxing The Ego To Make Empowered Choices

    In my previous posting, I stated that change is an ongoing process.  The acceptance that life is meant to be a voyage of discovering more authentic parts of ourselves, rather than a pursuit of a state of perfection we expect to achieve overnight, will make us much happier.  As long as we remain present in life, we would be able to take on the signs that are shown to us to keep us moving forward in our growth.  The quickest way to accelerate our growth is to observe how we respond from our ego and then make more empowered choices … Keep reading

  • The Joy Of Doing Meaningful Work

    I sent two clients who had completed our four-week programme to the airport yesterday.  As I said goodbye to them, I felt a surge of emotions well up inside me.  I walked away from the departure hall blinking back tears, overcome by a poignancy that moved me on a deep level.  When you’ve had four weeks of caring and watching the personal battles of a client who’d been residential with you, you can’t help but feel a little sad when they leave.  But it was sadness tinged with an admiration for their courage in pushing through some issues that are … Keep reading

  • Three Inspiring Messages

    Purple Lotus in a drug, alcohol rehab in Thailand)

    It’s interesting how messages get received, grasped and absorbed over countless times, each time reaching a deeper level of our awareness.  A bit like reading the same book or watching the same movie again – we see something different the second time around.  A sentence or a scene may open a new door by provoking a thought, evoking an emotion or triggering a memory.  All these stimulus may take us to a new realisation, a fresh insight which changes the way we perceive ourselves or our world.

    We may hear a message 10 times before we derive any real meaning … Keep reading

  • Healing Your Relationship With Food

    Last night, I watched a film in the centre’s movie room.  As I settled on the couch, I proceeded to eat a Mars Bar and buttered popcorn.  Halfway through the movie, I was struck by how relaxed and free I am about my eating now.  It’s been years since I’d thought anything about it, since I’d obsessed about everything I ate.

    Eating a Mars Bar without calculating the kind of ‘damage’ it could have on my body is so liberating.  I have been on countless diets in the past, obsessively counting calories, carb portions, fat grams, weighing myself, measuring myself, … Keep reading

  • Finding The Gift In An Illness

    Yesterday, I met up with a friend whom I hadn’t seen for almost three years.  She seemed so different from when I last saw her – her energy is expansive and bright, and she has an aura of peace about her.  The transformation from the last time I’d seen her was stark.  Her depression, the heavy sadness and pain which hung about her three years ago is gone, replaced by a certain presence and relaxed self-assuredness.

    She’s a model of someone who took responsibility to change for the better when confronted by what seemed like bad news.  A year ago, … Keep reading

  • The Anti-Beauty Day

    I am in a shopping mall, browsing the shelves on a vendor stand lined with beauty products.  I’m intrigued and fascinated by some of the products for sale.  Each product I pick up seems to scream its promise at me:

    Lighten Your Nipples!

    Flatten Your Tummy! 

    Curl/Extend Your Eyelashes! 

    Enlarge Your Breasts! 

    Slim Your Face! 

    I note how I am absorbing this with a detachment that eluded me in the past.  As I recall how in the past I would easily fall victim to such beauty standards and be made to feel inferior, I shudder at what this could do … Keep reading