• How To Get Unstuck NOW By Tapping Into Your Spiritual Truth

    During meditation a few days ago, I had a vision that left a profound impression on me.  I saw a small, pitiful creature lying on its side on the ground.  It looked a bit like a newborn puppy – hairless, pale, eyes barely opened, and as though it was born deformed such that it struggled to even stand up on its legs.  But what struck me wasn’t its physical helplessness.  I could see through into the creature’s inner world of mental anguish.  It was trapped in a state of suffering, capable only of repeating a series of debilitating thoughts that … Keep reading

  • How To Be Free And Spontaneous – Without Hurting Yourself

    One of our greatest desires is to be free and spontaneous.  If you look at most personal and social problems, you will see that somewhere along the way we were striving to be free from our physical, emotional and mental constraints.  To be able to express ourselves freely and spontaneously, to be freed from our fearful beliefs and the emotional pains that grip us – these desires are what sprouted the whole self-help and human potential movement.

    But the desire to be free and spontaneous can become a trap.  In our efforts to get unstuck, we can lead ourselves to … Keep reading

  • Lying In The Bed You Made

    Bed in Hotel in Koh Chang, Thailand

    The other day, someone was telling me about an undesirable situation he was in and I asked him why he was choosing to remain in it.  He said he has made his bed and now he has to lie in it.  This brings to mind something that I often come across when looking at the complexities about being in a state of suffering: how we can trap ourselves in suffering by doing nothing to reconcile the conflicts that give rise to the suffering.

    We might try to change things superficially within the situation, hoping it will bring improvement, but … Keep reading

  • Why We Stay In Abusive Situations

    When working with clients, I see a common theme that crops up all the time, no matter what life issues they are struggling with at the time.  It is the feeling of being trapped, unable to find a way out of a situation.  Whether it is in a relationship, a job situation, or their home life, there is a huge emotional need to create change but also a daunting prospect of what taking steps towards change could entail.  These problems manifest as stresses, confusions, frustrations, worries and conflicts.  The word ‘stuck’ is very apt in these situations, as they struggle … Keep reading