• Is Compassion For Others Overrated?

    In spiritual circles, it is common for people to state that we should “come from compassion”.  Whilst compassion is a high vibrational state, actually few really know how to practise it.  The way that many people purport to practise it actually takes them a few notches down in the spiritual evolutionary ladder.

    If we’re talking about true compassion, yes, coming from compassion is the way to go.  But most people misuse it, to the detriment of their own wellbeing.

    There comes a point in our spiritual growth when whenever we see someone behaving badly, our first inclination may be to … Keep reading

  • Are You Ready For The Next Level Of Healing?

    I recently read a critical review about my book Embrace The Unlovable, by Elizabelth Galen, Ph.D.  As a visionary writer who frequently pushes the envelope to invite new approaches and perspectives to healing and personal growth, I expect to receive criticisms from traditional sectors of these fields as part and parcel of sharing my views with the world.

    This particular critical piece, however, presented some important examples of the very limitations of what is available in mainstream treatment that I highlighted in my book. Therefore, I decided it would be an excellent source for me to use as a … Keep reading

  • The Power Of Naming Your Fears

    I was speaking with someone about the role of awareness in preventing the progression of negativity and found myself using the story of Rumpelstiltskin as an analogy. Since then I’ve been reflecting on the lessons we can extract from this fable about dealing with fear.

    Most of you will already know the Brothers Grimm’s story of Rumpelstiltskin.  It goes something like this:

    A man boasts to the king that his daughter can spin straw into gold.  The king locks the girl up in a room full of straw and forces her to do just that.  Should she fail, she’d be … Keep reading

  • Why We Stay In Abusive Situations

    When working with clients, I see a common theme that crops up all the time, no matter what life issues they are struggling with at the time.  It is the feeling of being trapped, unable to find a way out of a situation.  Whether it is in a relationship, a job situation, or their home life, there is a huge emotional need to create change but also a daunting prospect of what taking steps towards change could entail.  These problems manifest as stresses, confusions, frustrations, worries and conflicts.  The word ‘stuck’ is very apt in these situations, as they struggle … Keep reading