• When You Feel You Have Nothing Left

    Almost everyone has had moments in their lives when they feel as if they have run out of resources, solutions, answers.  This may be paired with symptoms of anxiety, depression, addictive behaviours or self-beating patterns.  The bottom line is, you feel stuck, trapped in a place where you don’t want to be, and you can’t see a way out.  In this state, it is easy to conclude that you have nothing left.

    It is an illusion that you have exhausted everything you have.  It is simply a state you find yourself in, and it is just one perspective.  Depending on … Keep reading

  • The Power Of Wordless Communication

    Have you ever wanted to shoot off that email right away, or to speak to someone face-to-face urgently, gripped by impatience?  We seem to think that if we don’t do it right away, we would be disadvantaged in some way.  We think our words, written or spoken, have so much power that we must assert this power right away.  We may be so accustomed to using words that we can’t see the value of not using words.

    Suppose I ask you to communicate or take action without using words.  How would you handle it?  What are some of the non-word … Keep reading

  • Is Compassion For Others Overrated?

    In spiritual circles, it is common for people to state that we should “come from compassion”.  Whilst compassion is a high vibrational state, actually few really know how to practise it.  The way that many people purport to practise it actually takes them a few notches down in the spiritual evolutionary ladder.

    If we’re talking about true compassion, yes, coming from compassion is the way to go.  But most people misuse it, to the detriment of their own wellbeing.

    There comes a point in our spiritual growth when whenever we see someone behaving badly, our first inclination may be to … Keep reading

  • How To Get Unstuck NOW By Tapping Into Your Spiritual Truth

    During meditation a few days ago, I had a vision that left a profound impression on me.  I saw a small, pitiful creature lying on its side on the ground.  It looked a bit like a newborn puppy – hairless, pale, eyes barely opened, and as though it was born deformed such that it struggled to even stand up on its legs.  But what struck me wasn’t its physical helplessness.  I could see through into the creature’s inner world of mental anguish.  It was trapped in a state of suffering, capable only of repeating a series of debilitating thoughts that … Keep reading

  • Are You Addicted To Worry, Not-Having and Other Negative States?

    In my work as an addiction therapist, I have helped hundreds of people in overcoming all kinds of addictions.  Usually, when people think of addictions, they think of addiction to drugs, alcohol, sex, pornography, gambling or internet gaming.  But these more commonly known addictions are just the tip of the iceberg, for beneath these conspicuous behaviours lie another kind of addiction: addiction to non-physical things.

    By this, I’m referring to certain emotions or states of being.  The things that can’t be seen on the outside but take place in a person’s inner world.

    This should not be hard to imagine.  … Keep reading

  • 3 Mindset Shifts You Can Implement Right Away To Transform Your Life

    Here are three simple mindset shifts you can implement right away to promote powerful changes in your life and give you more inner peace.


    MINDSET SHIFT #1:  Stop Figuring Out Why

    I used to be obsessed with working out why things happened.  I couldn’t leave anything not figured out, explained, analysed and neatly assigned to a mental compartment.  I would obsess about finding the answer to why someone did, didn’t do, said, or didn’t say, something.  What was their motive, agenda, frame of mind?  With the precision of a scientist, I would trace back events, leaving no stone unturned, until … Keep reading

  • Healing The Deep Insecurity That Creates Loneliness

    A friend recently asked me if I ever felt lonely. I thought about it, and realised that it had been a long time since I remembered feeling lonely. This realisation was huge for me. For most of my life I had suffered from a deep sense of loneliness. It’s the kind of loneliness that did not go away just because I had company, but one that stayed perpetually in the background of my psyche like some quietly-growing disease.

    Afterwards, I reflected on when my loneliness had left me. It was definitely a very gradual shift over many years of self-healing. … Keep reading

  • Are You Ready For The Next Level Of Healing?

    I recently read a critical review about my book Embrace The Unlovable, by Elizabelth Galen, Ph.D.  As a visionary writer who frequently pushes the envelope to invite new approaches and perspectives to healing and personal growth, I expect to receive criticisms from traditional sectors of these fields as part and parcel of sharing my views with the world.

    This particular critical piece, however, presented some important examples of the very limitations of what is available in mainstream treatment that I highlighted in my book. Therefore, I decided it would be an excellent source for me to use as a … Keep reading

  • When Everything Seems to Go Wrong… It is Powerful!

    Are you in one of those periods where everything just seems to fall apart?  Where the whole world seems to be against you?  Where anything that can go wrong, is going wrong in one way or another?

    I have good news for you:  Contrary to how it may seem and how it’s making you feel, you are in an immensely powerful place.  If you know how powerful this is, you can take advantage of the gifts it contains.  But if you see it as unfortunate and a series of bad luck – that you’re in a bad phase of your … Keep reading

  • What To Do When Nothing Is Showing Up

    Are you in one of those phases when you’ve been waiting for some changes but nothing seems to be happening?  As far as you know, you’ve done all the right things, according to what you know about the laws of manifestation.  You feel you’ve done everything that you’ve been taught – you’ve trusted, surrendered, taken inspired actions, etc. – yet nothing is showing up.

    You’ve even tried doing nothing.  You’ve tried sitting in the void, but the void can be a bitch when all you get is pain or emptiness.  What else is there to do?


    #1  Do something creative.

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